Thursday, March 24, 2011

Saying No

Do’s and Don’ts of Saying “NO”

  • Don’t be afraid to say “no” to your child.
    • ALL children need discipline
  • There are 3 types of “no”
    • Regular – the answer is wrong “no”
    • Very Loud – this “no” is very LOUD and is designed to be very unpleasant.  This is typically used for something extremely unacceptable (hitting, hurting, running away)
    • Assertive – This “no is to let your child know that their behavior is not acceptable to stop immediately. (“no throwing rocks”)
  • Do be specific with your “no”
    • Your child will not know what to stop doing unless you tell them.
    • Do give them an alternative (“Stop jumping on the bed, let’s go outside and play.”)
    • Do give them consequences… and follow through… every time! – Children know an empty threat when they hear it.
  • Don’t send mixed messages
    • Use your tone of voice and facial expression to ensure that:
    • Your positives must be unmistakably positive
    • Your negatives must be unmistakably negative (no laughing at their bad behavior)
  • Do be consistent
    • As with all discipline, consistency is key.
    • Your child must know that you mean what you say.
  • Don’t bribe your child to get good behavior
    • Good behavior should be the standard, not the exception
  • Do remember your roles.
    • You are the parent.
    • He/She is the child.

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